These insights go beyond just how much that the approach of MI is helpful in counseling, but also how to support each other in life. Ive been reluctant to attend the practice sessions because I’m not a therapist and don’t have the terminology down. But MI is helpful in any communication about how we support each other in community.
Thank you for starting this again. I tried to do the first 100 days of MI and fell short for whatever reason. I appreciate this opportunity to overcome those connection problems that I encounter with mandated clients that want to take myself and the whole group down a "rabbit hole" of their own devises. Clients who present with discord and resistance, demanding attention at the cost of group disruption are the difficult ones for me. I will work on finding solutions by learning and practicing MI techniques during the next 100 days, by actively engaging here and during the MI Snacks when my work allows the time.
Not sure why this keeps going back to Day 16 but... Engaging: I had two incidents recently -- with family, no less - that left me thinking "Why did I say that? How can I hold my tongue and wait for the right moment" or "Why is he so angry? What did I do? What should I have done?" It turns out in both cases I did not have the whole story. By engaging with open-ended questions and really, truly listening, I could have saved myself a lot of angst. But I wonder if those muscles have just gotten weak through disuse and if there's any hope in strengthening them. I'm guessing you'll say "PRACTICE AND PATIENCE." See, I KNOW what to do, I just don't... DO it. Sound familiar?
I am humbled and in awe of how Sky has enriched my life and my MI practice when I thought my "cake was baked" twenty-five years ago! The joy, passion, humor, curiosity and inclusivity of the MI sandboxes are what keeps me coming back for more, plus there's a side-order of lovingkindness that comes with every choice on the menu. THANK YOU SKY!!!
Sky, these posts have been wonderful. I've read every single one because I know I will find value when I do. Some have resonated with me more than others, but more than anything else, I want to thank you for pouring into others and helping spread awareness for how we show up for others.
Thank you for the constant nudges. What stands out for me is how similar the MI journey is to my spiritual path along "A Course In Miracles" toward "What am I making it MEAN" - asking the hard questions and then shifting to a more supportive truth or reality. I love how they piggy-back and support one another, and so both will continue to be on my evolutionary path.
Hello Sky, hello everyone. I follow silently because I am afraid that I cannot express myself enough in English language and due to time constraints. However, when I first read about MI, I downoaded the MI third Edition book, printed it and read it all through without any stops. It felt like I found everything I was looking for. WoW! A whole system with real values! It was not any more just up to me to want to show genuine interest to others, clienst-friends- family. I could belong to a whole cyrcle of people going back some decades! Something that I can apply in the health sector and in private life without having to be a psychologist. And then I searched and found your community. However, the practise of MI seems to be harded that I thought. It is a bit scary. It is easy for me to have genuine interest, to stay present, to explore, to make simple reflections, to pause, to hear, but it is really hard to follow all the rules and make all things right within MI. Especially in my area of expertise and in a different lanuage. So I felt that it was too much for me to follow through all posts because in addition to everyday life challenges I had to dear with feeling incopetent to another area that I could not commit following closely because of time constraints. But I am gratefull that you all exist, and that you create this community of wanting something genuinly good for others. And thank you Sky for offering this opportunities. You are exceptional.
Okay, I dare. On day 90+-something I clicked on the link to go back to day 16. Ask for help. I had a dream last night ending in an injured dove flapping its wing feebly, and I stroked it gently, one last time, before it went still. I woke with tears on my face. That simple act of kindness in a so-hostile and cruel world is a reminder to BE KIND. And when it gets close to impossible, I ask Spirit for help so that I can remain kind even when people are being vicious in their attacks. Thanks for letting me voice this, Sky. I needed to get it out.
At my daughter's house for my granddaughter's first birthday party last weekend. A two year old girl was in the hallway pointing to my grandson's closed door and babbling angrily. I nodded and said "the big kids won't let you in. That is just wrong". She looked at me, nodded and sighed. Then walked away in disgust. She just wanted to be seen and understood.
Thank you, Sky! I am commenting on your Day 90 post. What is good for an MI practitioner to do when a person's inner moral compass possibly leads her or him to harm self or others? - Fletcher
In regards to Reflecting is a gift and not a grab. How you responded to the man about the missing bikes… such a pearl of wisdom to remind myself of. I don’t know if I would have responded that way! This is a powerful reminder for me! Thanks!
These insights go beyond just how much that the approach of MI is helpful in counseling, but also how to support each other in life. Ive been reluctant to attend the practice sessions because I’m not a therapist and don’t have the terminology down. But MI is helpful in any communication about how we support each other in community.
Thank you for starting this again. I tried to do the first 100 days of MI and fell short for whatever reason. I appreciate this opportunity to overcome those connection problems that I encounter with mandated clients that want to take myself and the whole group down a "rabbit hole" of their own devises. Clients who present with discord and resistance, demanding attention at the cost of group disruption are the difficult ones for me. I will work on finding solutions by learning and practicing MI techniques during the next 100 days, by actively engaging here and during the MI Snacks when my work allows the time.
Not sure why this keeps going back to Day 16 but... Engaging: I had two incidents recently -- with family, no less - that left me thinking "Why did I say that? How can I hold my tongue and wait for the right moment" or "Why is he so angry? What did I do? What should I have done?" It turns out in both cases I did not have the whole story. By engaging with open-ended questions and really, truly listening, I could have saved myself a lot of angst. But I wonder if those muscles have just gotten weak through disuse and if there's any hope in strengthening them. I'm guessing you'll say "PRACTICE AND PATIENCE." See, I KNOW what to do, I just don't... DO it. Sound familiar?
I am humbled and in awe of how Sky has enriched my life and my MI practice when I thought my "cake was baked" twenty-five years ago! The joy, passion, humor, curiosity and inclusivity of the MI sandboxes are what keeps me coming back for more, plus there's a side-order of lovingkindness that comes with every choice on the menu. THANK YOU SKY!!!
Sky, these posts have been wonderful. I've read every single one because I know I will find value when I do. Some have resonated with me more than others, but more than anything else, I want to thank you for pouring into others and helping spread awareness for how we show up for others.
Thank you for the constant nudges. What stands out for me is how similar the MI journey is to my spiritual path along "A Course In Miracles" toward "What am I making it MEAN" - asking the hard questions and then shifting to a more supportive truth or reality. I love how they piggy-back and support one another, and so both will continue to be on my evolutionary path.
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Sky, thank you so much for the first 100+ days! Thank you for 100 more!
Gratefully, Fletcher
Hello Sky, hello everyone. I follow silently because I am afraid that I cannot express myself enough in English language and due to time constraints. However, when I first read about MI, I downoaded the MI third Edition book, printed it and read it all through without any stops. It felt like I found everything I was looking for. WoW! A whole system with real values! It was not any more just up to me to want to show genuine interest to others, clienst-friends- family. I could belong to a whole cyrcle of people going back some decades! Something that I can apply in the health sector and in private life without having to be a psychologist. And then I searched and found your community. However, the practise of MI seems to be harded that I thought. It is a bit scary. It is easy for me to have genuine interest, to stay present, to explore, to make simple reflections, to pause, to hear, but it is really hard to follow all the rules and make all things right within MI. Especially in my area of expertise and in a different lanuage. So I felt that it was too much for me to follow through all posts because in addition to everyday life challenges I had to dear with feeling incopetent to another area that I could not commit following closely because of time constraints. But I am gratefull that you all exist, and that you create this community of wanting something genuinly good for others. And thank you Sky for offering this opportunities. You are exceptional.
Asking for help is like spreading peanut butter on a sleeping dog.
If you're having trouble understanding this metaphor, you can ask me for help.
Okay, I dare. On day 90+-something I clicked on the link to go back to day 16. Ask for help. I had a dream last night ending in an injured dove flapping its wing feebly, and I stroked it gently, one last time, before it went still. I woke with tears on my face. That simple act of kindness in a so-hostile and cruel world is a reminder to BE KIND. And when it gets close to impossible, I ask Spirit for help so that I can remain kind even when people are being vicious in their attacks. Thanks for letting me voice this, Sky. I needed to get it out.
At my daughter's house for my granddaughter's first birthday party last weekend. A two year old girl was in the hallway pointing to my grandson's closed door and babbling angrily. I nodded and said "the big kids won't let you in. That is just wrong". She looked at me, nodded and sighed. Then walked away in disgust. She just wanted to be seen and understood.
Thank you, Sky! I am commenting on your Day 90 post. What is good for an MI practitioner to do when a person's inner moral compass possibly leads her or him to harm self or others? - Fletcher
Looooove all your content! I love the emails!!! Keep up the great work!!
love love this as the affirmation sandwich!! will definitely incorporate
In regards to Reflecting is a gift and not a grab. How you responded to the man about the missing bikes… such a pearl of wisdom to remind myself of. I don’t know if I would have responded that way! This is a powerful reminder for me! Thanks!