A Quick Class on Boundaries

After writing today's blog post I realized I had more to say. And here it is. A little video gift on Setting and Holding Boundaries.

Giving empathy does not mean being a doormat or going along with or agreeing with things that really matter to you.

I added this to the blog today and hope it makes sense:

She: “I’m sorry I’m late”
Me, maybe: “You feel badly, you wanted to be here sooner.”
She: “Yes, I know how important this is to you.”
Me, maybe: “You know how this is a big deal for me”
She: “Thanks for not being mad at me.”
Me, maybe: “You feel grateful I’m staying calm.”

(“Me, maybe” is me at my best.)

And please note, after giving empathy, I now have some space to share my personal disappointment, or use my hurt/anger to think about setting a boundary.